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Lady Lydia on why she styles herself as a “Lady”

This article is one of those rare articles, in which Lady Lydia has permitted rude comments. Many a time this article gets deleted, but still if you search you might get it. Meanwhile, the current link to this article is here
Christian Feminist says:
It’s Christian feminist again. I decided to write one last time because I was absolutely appaled by your post on boys not whistling after women anymore, which you regret so. Dear “lady” Lydia ( by the way, did you know that only the daughters of British earls, marquesses and dukes are entitled to use the title Lady before their name? 
something tells me you’re no aristocrat, so why call yourself that? a craving for titles? how pathethic..
by the way, I’m a real aristocrat, with family tree dating back to the XIV century, and with ancestors who held high positions at princely courts since the XVIIth century, but I don’t brag about that and I never use my title. In a democracy, titles are ridiculous ) 
A woman who desires to be whistled at is no lady. In my mind she is more likely a harlot. HOW DARE YOU criticize women who choose to dress according to modern fashion and don’t wear the long, baggy, loose and shapeles things you call ” feminine dress”? How dare you suggest that women invite assault and rape by the way they dress, and at the same time you regret men don’t whistle after women anymore? If any woman invites rape, it’s you with your twisted, perverse way of thinking. In my country, women are still whistled after. Everytime this happened to me I felt nothing but contempt for those pathethic men who used that way of gaining my attention. At the same time, I felt extremely unconfortable, like a piece of meat drooled after by hungry dogs. If you enjoy being whistled at, you enjoy tempting men to sin, you enjoy their lust. What a hypocrite you are, whit your rantings about modesty and femininity!
Lady Lydia Speaks:
Dear Romanian Lady,
Before Jennie Chancey and I formed the site “Ladies Against Feminism” (LAF), we and a number of other women belonged to an online group called “Victorian and Edwardian Ladies Society,” where one of the practices was to prefix your name with the word “lady”. 
We had Lady Jennie, Lady Susan, Lady Lydia, and lady this or that–everyone addressed themselves as lady, to indicate a more mannerly and genteel way of life that we were trying to import. This trend spread, and now I still see it on many of their blogs, where they sign their names with the word “lady.” 
It just means lady -like and doesn’t imply a title at all. There is no rule or law that says you must be royalty in order to have that word in front of your name. 
In past centuries, almost all women were addressed as ladies, and it didn’t mean royalty. However,as many of us are Bible believers, we know that when we follow the teachings of Christ, we are daughters of the King, and can be princesses or ladies if we like. 
Perhaps you would rather I call myself “Princess” instead of “lady.” It began as a tongue-in-cheek kind of joke, but the name stuck, and it goes so much better with Lydia.
You dont have to have official papers in order to use the word lady in front of your name. In the Victorian and Edwardian Ladies Society, we always used the word lady if we were members of that group. 
When we formed the site LAF Jennie wanted me to have a column there dealing with some subjects I had sometimes posted on the Victorian and Edwardian Ladies Society, and so she called it “Lady Lydia Speaks” and the name stuck.


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Queen of Net on Lydia, Mr Bumpfries & LAF

The Queen of Net has a great article on Ladies Against Feminism.

We are for maidenhood,

All praise to the holy hymen, amen.
modesty, virtue,
A woman in each kitchen, six children in each nursery. Unless you’re in Utah, I guess.

i.e. the ability to say, “I do” and then “Yes, sir”.
womanly arts and femininity. Join the new revolution!

But do it quietly, after you’ve finished cooking for the menfolk and asked their permission to join. If they say no, retire smiling to your bedchamber and have another baby. That is, after all, the true essence of women, and is lovingly detailed in the article.”
Coming closer to home what they had to say about Lady Lydia’s son-in-law is more interesting.
Mr Aiden Humphrey‘s frightfully, stupid article at LAF called Skandalon, comes under criticism.

Queen of Net says: You have to feel sorry for these people. I guess if I was saddled with a moniker like Mr Aiden Humphrey-Bughum, I’d be crabby and miserable too.
Aiden Humphrey says: These are young men and women with all the potential in the world, but parts of their lives are sort of up for grabs right now; their private lives are exposed and vulnerable to sin; here and there they sit on the fence between the call of Jesus Christ and the call of the world; they’re blessed by God in many ways; but Satan has the scent of their souls in his nostrils; and fence-sitters are easy prey; they’ve got corruptive influences in their lives; maybe they are out from under the protection of your authority; maybe their friends have less than the best motives; maybe its something that they are just experimenting with; maybe they think they are just playing with sin, and that when they let go of it; it will let go of them.

Queen of Net says: Dear Mr Humphrey-Bungum,

Even if you think a period (.) is something shameful and womanly, please attempt to use one more often.
And he doesn’t just hang out in New York City or LA… Satan gets around; I’ve got reason to believe that he’s been in Oregon recently.
The cloven footprints all over Portland, the smell of sulfur… it could have just been a cow-herd migration. But Aiden Humphrey-Bungum knew better. Follow the adventures of this intrepid Christian sleuth as he tracks the Devil Himself to… Utah!

Aiden Humprey says: There are lives he’s ravaged that bear his signature misery…

Queen of Net says: Satan’s signature is “misery”? Does Stephen King know?

Aiden Humprey says: I want to show you stories of young people who trusted in the LORD for their future husband or wife, and they have love stories that would make you want to laugh and cry at the same time; stories that are better than any romance novel you could hope to read.
Queen of Net says: Oddly enough, they don’t seem to sell as well.

Aiden Humprey says: God is the author of romance;

Queen of Net says: Though He writes under the name Genevieve Olivetta Delafontaine.
If you want to savor the seasons of the heart, let God write your love story; one chapter into it, and you won’t be able to put it down…
Because this author doesn’t take criticism very well?

Aiden Humprey says: But ladies, the Lord has said that if… you are going to keep dressing in such a way as to entice men to commit fornication or adultery with you, then it would be better for a millstone to be tied around your neck and for you to be cast into the sea.
Queen of Net says: Except such a woman would most likely be a witch, so she’d float, and then she’d have to be burned. And this would still be a far, far better thing than destroying.

Aiden Humprey says: The Purity of Men
Queen of Net says: Yes, it’s by Mr. Humphrey-Bungum again. Bungum one for me, Aiden!

Aiden Humprey says: Our God is a wonderful Father, He is the Daddy every boy dreams of.

Queen of Net says: Ah, those must be the kind of dreams that leave embarassing stains afterwards.
Aiden Humprey says: It is a man’s foremost and sweetest privilege to be one with his Daddy, his Abba, his Father in heaven.
Men, do not attempt to achieve this blissful oneness with your Daddy or Father on earth. Save it for the only One who cares.
How natural it is to turn to Him for every little thing. But how unnatural to turn to the Holy One with the flame of lust.
When the Holy One wants you in His arms, trembling with passion and need, the Holy One will let you know! Until then, please don’t bother Him.
Not surprisingly, then, one of the world’s commonest ways of putting a wedge between a child of God and his Father is to encourage women to dress immodestly. Even after we shut our eyes in prayer, Dear Father, the lurid images linger on.
Queen of Net says: As we all know, men have no imagination, so if women only dressed modestly, men would think of them as, well, other men. But if women don’t take this excellent advice, something very bad may happen, as coyly implied in Brian Sullivan’s article

And then unveiling our Master Writer: Lady Lydia.

The Queen of Nets says on the Lady Lydia Speaks column:

“is peppered with pictures of Victorian women, so we all know what God wants us to wear.”

Lady Lydia Speaks: Here are some things that are not feminine: Clothing with holes in it revealing parts of the skin.
Queen of Net says: This includes those very large holes through which women show off their heads.
Lady Lydia Speaks: Which is better: to cause an accident because a woman was so scantily dressed that someone was distracted and stumbled or drove his car into a post, or to cause a man to think of heaven because she was so carefully and finely clothed?
Queen of Net says: Man : A woman in a Victorian dress! With a hat! She reminds me of the Lamb of God already! Bleat for me, darling!
I’ll leave you with one final piece of wisdom from Lady Lydia :
The Bible says that the ant gets food ready in the summer to store in the winter. It does this without a ruler or a boss or an overseer.
Hmm, Ladies Against Feminism obviously forgot to plug the “intelligence” module into this drone, though she’s got the modesty and christianity programs functioning overtime.
In summary, hell would be far preferable to being forced into the distorted, grinning anachronism that is apparently considered to be the apex of femininity by these “ladies”.
Their ideal woman would be a corseted doll with her hands on the bible and her feet in the birthing stirrups, assuring you over and over again that, “It’s a good life.” Thanks, but I’ve already read The Handmaid’s Tale. Now there’s the kind of romance novel the Christian God might write.

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Lydia Merman! This is me!

Painting by Paula Vaughan  

I love talking and writing about myself, so you can be sure you will hear lots from me. I must first start off with what others are saying about me.
I love dressing and believe dressing beautifully is the only way to heaven – as my beautiful dresses reflect the blessings of my creator. 


One of those nasty Christians posted that I talk crap. Later they changed the title, but the blog url still reads the original version. And I was so shocked to find that my old friend M.A. also joined them in deriding me..Woe unto them, who speak against a defenceless woman – a pastor’s wife.
The following was an automatically denied response to an outrageous blog entry by the Lady Lydia.

This is apparently old news, but hey it’s new to me.  

This is an honest question and petition: Can you imagine Jesus, seriously, walking into a scene of poor women wearing cheap clothes, and sneering? Would He honestly care about their clothing? In His culture, people wore simple robes; utilitarian items, and I’d imagine they would get fairly dirty at times. In fact, I’m certain He would take issue with people flaunting name-brand items, even if it is April Cornell.

If perhaps Jesus’ robe got crinkled in the back, and made His butt look big, would you sneer at Him? Or how about if the Virgin Mary’s skirt got hiked up on accident? I know my clothes have hiked up on me before. In fact, today my zipper was left down accidentally for a few minutes! Even though I love Christ, would you judge me at such an oversight? Also, I’ve been a little lazy about the laundry for a couple of weeks, but honestly I’ve got a lot on my mind, lots of personal and school obligations, friends with issues- you know, the usual. I try to look presentable, but sometimes I just have to throw on the pair of wrinkled jeans with a hole in the pocket, and maybe a tuckable shirt that I don’t bother to tuck in. Does this make me less of a Christian? Will I stand before the Judgement Seat of Christ and be held accountable for my scraggly dungarees? I think not. I hope you count this a mature comment, even though it is a critique of your opinions.

Please consider these thoughts.

Peace to you.


As an artist, I also take issue with her statement about brown and dying flower. Something can be dying yet beautiful at the same time dude! Following her reasoning why would anyone ever want to paint Jesus bloodied on the Cross? Eh… limited aesthetics bother me, and I will stop before I begin an unbridled rant about Thomas Kinkade’s.


The comments to that post were:
btw, for an interesting time related to this, look at the comments on the previous post.
Ooooh, don’t stop now—–I want to hear the Kinkade rant!
🙂 Well said, brother. Well said.
If you really are a brother, I wonder what you think about Christ’s teachings regarding speaking ill of another bro. or sister? I notice your url to this article is “lady lydia speaks but what crap she is.” As for one of your commenters, Molly Aley, she used to write really good articles for LAF and now I see she is right there with you, mocking and deriding me. I assure both of you that I have never written anything negative about either one of you on any site, nor have I ever made a personal, public attack on either of you. You might look up some articles on Modesty and see what people are so concerned about and do some thorough research before you pass judgement on me.
Anonymous said..(P.S. The anonymous is actually me, but then I like to show as if I have friends speaking up for me)
“Will I stand before the Judgement Seat of Christ and be held accountable for my scraggly dungarees? ” Better question for you would be “Will I stand before judgement justifying my personal attack on another, or anyone else in Christ?”
Anonymous said…
I guess in light of the Christless preaching, you are guilty of it just like everyone else. In your view, immodesty does not matter, even though it was preached in the New Testament that women were to dress modestly.

i know this is old, but i also personally know stamati.
i think what he is saying is less of immodesty and more of “not judging by one’s appearance”
for what it’s worth
Anonymous said… (This is again, lovely me)
I was just wondering how Christian the words “…but what crap she is” and what message he is trying to give about himself in this…is it a Christian one, as he claims?

Anonymous said…
He certainly has a right to make his points on his blog, but to claim to be a Christian erstwhile posting an article naming someone else and calling her “crap” (see the web address when you pull up this article) is hardly a Christian gesture.

Anonymous said…
regarding his rant about Kinkade paintings…is a brother born to verbalize disgust at another brother’s work, a work that is a result of his own deep faith in Christ (Kinkade also produces many Christian materials from his artwork) and a brother whose love for Jesus helps him spread light around with such paintings? Granted, not everyone likes the same kind of art, and some prefer high rise buildings rather than homey cottages with families in them. But does a dislike of them necessarily justify Stamati, the “brother” who also claims Christ, to put it down with such disgust? How do you justify this in light of the scripture 1Jn 4:20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?
Granted you have not “seen” Kinkade, or Lydia, but you have seen their things on the web, which you will agree, shows something of their faith in Christ. How can you then write derrogatorily of either of them (for example the”kinkade rant” and the “Lady Lydia Speaks but what she says is crap” in the url title) and still claim to “love” God. God created those two people, so you love God, but you sneer at two people that also belong to Him?

i love how everyone is ranting, anonymously, without really knowing tony or his heart. or really anything about him.
you all are amazing
also, i highly doubt that stamati hates kinkade as a person. i bet they could be great friends.
you all disgust me. coming across like a bunch of staunch saints throwing scripture around without really looking at the anger contained within your words. questioning anothers faith?
based on what?
a blog entry?
have you seen the way stamati is preaching Christ to everyone he meets?
have you seen the way that he challenges himself and others to be closer to Christ?
what fools. what fools. seriously, there is very little that makes me quite as angry as when people judge what they do not know.
This is great info to know.
I want to apologize for anything I have said that has damaged anything but the evil in myself and my fellow believers.
(I know he apologised, but if he really felt sorry he would have deleted the post as I have been urging him in private to do)

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